Marriage Advice to My Newlywed Self
3 Keys to Enjoying More “Happy” in Your Ever After
I still remember walking into the “Young Married” Sunday school class as a newlywed. It was our first real activity as a married couple. We were in a new town and I was still tripping over getting my name right when introducing myself. We were just starting off in our “happily ever after.”
That’s what I like to call that sweet spot just after you get married. We’re still glowing from our big day — that one day we spent the last several months planning for. Meanwhile, we are all but ignoring the fact that we really should have been preparing for our marriage ahead. We kind of believe the fairytale — that life will just be “happy” after the wedding.
I’ll never forget meeting one couple who helped lead that newly married class. They had been married for two whole years! Both Steve and I reacted in awe. Wow! Two years seemed like such a long time to be married. Here we were just a week after returning from our honeymoon with less than two weeks under our belts.
Fast forward twenty years, and here we are getting ready to celebrate our twentieth wedding anniversary. Oh, how I wish I could sit down with my sweet, newlywed self and tell her a thing or two. Yes, there has been plenty of “happy” in our “ever after.” But there has also been hard times, frustrating times, and times when we just weren’t communicating well.
So, what would I say? What wonderful, sage advice would I give myself? Well, I’m going to quote my godmother on this one. She and my godfather have been married for over 60 years. I’ve watched them through the years and marveled at their lives and how devoted they are to each other and to the Lord. She has verbally expressed the first two, but I’ve witnessed the last one.