Who is Teaching Whom?
Lessons I've Learned From My Kids
Do you ever have those “Ah-ha!” moments when you feel like God just hit you between the eyes with something that now seems so obvious? You know, those “why didn't I think of that earlier” times. Well, welcome to my life.
I'm a homeschool mom with five kids. About seven years ago I “volunteered” for this job of educating my kids at home. We pulled them out of public school, bought a bunch of workbooks, loaded up on library books, and jumped in. Full steam ahead.
What has amazed me the most these past several years has not just been how awesome it is to watch my kids learn at home (& realize how much I never learned in my school years) but to see how much my kids are teaching me!
I'm the one who is supposed to be doing the teaching, yet there are days when I feel like I'm the one doing the learning.
I'm learning that my kids are remarkable at teaching me things I never knew about myself before. They are God's little instruments to teach me the lessons that He wants me to learn.
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3 Lessons My Kids Have Taught Me
- Lesson #1: I am loved even when I mess up. It's so easy for me to feel unlovable when I think about bad choices I've made. Guilt steals my joy more than it should. Yet, I've realized that even when my kids make mistakes, it does not diminish my love for them. I love them deeply no matter how perfect or imperfect they are. I've learned that God loves me regardless of my past, present, or future mistakes or poor choices. His love is perfect, even when I'm not!
“And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge — that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:18, 19
- Lesson #2: Forgiveness is the key to true joy! Here's the truth, my kids are awesome, but they are also masters at annoying each other when they want to. I've seen my kids wrong each other. Then I'll watch as the offender will say the obligatory “I'm sorry” to a sibling who was wronged. Next, the offended child repeats back the expected “I forgive you” remark. Yet, I've noticed that unless that child actually forgives their offender in their heart and not just with their words, the relationship remains un-repaired and the bitterness grows. Forgiveness can't be contingent upon whether there is real sincerity about what was done or even whether you get an apology at all. Unforgiveness is a poison and allows a root of bitterness to grow. True forgiveness is the repellent to bitterness. It is about letting go of the pain, hurt, and the feeling of being wronged, and turning to God to experience His peace through releasing it to Him. If only I had learned this earlier, instead of having to see it play out in our home to catch what God was trying to tell me as all these years about the “heart” of forgiveness.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13
- Lesson #3: I don't have it all together — & it's okay. 🙂 Not that it took me having kids to realize this, but I feel like it's a daily lesson these days. I used to think that I could handle just about anything thrown at me. I was a great multi-tasker. But I've learned now that I'm not. I have moments when I feel like I'm stuck in slow motion when everything around me is spinning out of control. & you know what I've learned — it's okay! I need to slow down more and soak in the moment. My kids are growing so fast and I won't get these days back. So, it's okay to let some things go and give myself loads of grace (because the loads of laundry can wait).
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1
I'm sure the good Lord would have taught me these lessons eventually. However, He chose to teach me these lessons through my kids.
So, that “Ah-ha!” moment I spoke about– & that God's sized plank that hit me square between the eyes: I am God's child! He has allowed me to experience being a parent so that I can learn more about my relationship with Him.
God gave me my kids, my uniquely created kids, to inspire me, refine me, and teach me more about Him and His love for me — His deep, unconditional love.
What About You?
Have your kids taught you any lessons you'd like to share? I'd love to hear from you. Add your comments below about what you've learned from your kids.